Happy birthday, you gregarious, wonderful, beautiful, frustrating, hilarious, fantastic, fascinating, unique and incredibly absent man. Your birth touched many, many lives. Your life was so full, you lived several lifetimes in your short life, more than most people live. Today, I want to celebrate that life but all I can do is think about your death. All I can think is that you’re gone and that full, lively, wonderful, topsy-turvy life of yours is history. There is no more life for you. It’s still hard to process. It still feels weird, like it’s not real. Death is so weird, it’s just so weird. Birthdays are a lovely thing, though. They…
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Back in Black: Book Update and Spam
Hello! It has been a while. I had to deal with some things and had a couple of huge projects come my way that needed my full attention but now I’m back in a big way and I have some updates and a few widow thoughts. First of all, I’m giving a firm date for my book, I Hope They Have Email in the Afterlife. October 26th is the big day and I am sticking to it. This is it. This is the month. This book needs to get out of me and I want to get it out there. A quick summary: In the grip of my deepest grief,…
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Guest Post on Depression Site and That Second Year
My Latest Guest Post I am excited to announce that I have been published on a great new depression site called SadRunner. It’s a passion project for Adam Weitz a freelance writer and designer who suffered through his own depression. He decided that he wanted to try to use his skills to help people and started this website. His site is filled with all kinds of helpful articles about positive ways to deal with depression and anxiety. There is helpful advice, validation and just a place to feel like you’re not alone. I highly recommend the site to everybody who has or is suffering from depression and those who have…
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Float Away
My life is not without challenges. Like so many of us, there are many more challenges than I would like. But I sit here today and I look out at the sun shining through my windows. I breathe in the spring air through my partially opened door. I watch the clouds move in their willowy way. I see people living their lives, working and walking. They have families at home or they don’t. They have something to look forward to or they don’t. They have something that they dread or they don’t. They are human, like me. We are all in this together and I see us all surrounded by…
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A Tribute to the Friends and Family of Grievers
Disclaimer: This is based on my experience. Every griever is different and will appreciate different things but I tried to be as general as possible while still getting in everything I appreciated during the worst of my grief. There are a lot of articles and blog posts out there about what to do and what not to do as a friend or family member of a griever. And for good reason! Many people don’t know how to respond and the wrong response can make a griever feel worse because it is so hard for us to see outside of our tremendous pain in the beginning. Having said that, there are…
